Making Time to Date
Marissa Sweat Evans
I am a mother and advocate for my son as well as others with disabilities. My oldest was diagnosis with cerebral palsy, epilepsy and autism.
For most parents that have children with special needs or children at all Valentine’s Day isn’t a big deal.
Anniversaries probably aren’t celebrated either.
The truth is that most of us don’t make time to plan anything because were always busy with something.
It could be work, the kids, cleaning the house etc.
And what we don’t realize is making time for each other is important too.
In my house holidays such as Valentine’s Day isn’t something, we make a big deal out of, but we do celebrate it. We celebrate it at home with our kids.
Our house is really our favorite place to be because its where we are most comfortable.
On this day my husband and I usually shop for the kids as well as a card or something for each other.
We than decide what we’re going to cook and cook it together.
Usually after dinner once finish getting the kids ready for bed we cuddle and watch a movie. But that all depends on whether Valentine’s day fall on a weekday or weekend.
If it falls on a weekday, we don’t usually celebrate it until the weekend.
We also learned how to make time for each other between times.
For example, instead of going straight to sleep at night we usually stay up a while and talk to each other.
We also try to do at least one breakfast or lunch date through the week while the kids are at school.
My husband is disabled too so he doesn’t work but while I’m on my way home from work we talk on the phone until I get there.
One of our favorite things to do together is watch movies.
Usually its whatever I want to look at.
After we put the kids to bed, we pop popcorn and go in the garage to watch movies on the projector screen.
It’s just like watching a movie at a theater right from home. You’ll be surprised at how much time you could make in between times for each other.
Making that time for one another is just as important as you taking care of children and yourself.